Will repeat that the whole day long! (-.-)
OK, this post is dedicated to myself as I'm trying to convince myself of the following things:
- It is NOT of my business what my friends do or do not do
- It is NOT my job to give them any kind of advice
- It is NOT my business how my friends' personal life is going
- It is NOT my problem if one of them is falling and falling
- It is NOT me who should play the role of their voice of conscience
And guess what? I'm tired of it. I can't take it any more because when you make so much effort and in the end when you have not achieved anything then you are forced to give up and to live with that.
Of course, I'm excluding my real friends who have all (almost) finished school already. Can't wait to be done with it too.
So, let's hope I will be able to convince myself as quickly as possible of these things because it CANNOT go on like that any more...
Ok, this post is set in the label of "Alarm'' so that I always keep it in mind! And it is an ALARM!
An alaram for me to wake up and get a grip!
Here you can compare this post with my real defnition of frienship:
Recepting, accepting but also changing
6 comments:
And you call youself a friend?
Friends should stand by each other, in the good times and in the bad times. Leaving them "fall and fall" is not the wisest decision. Even if they are stubborn, not seeing it at first, it is your responsability to take care. And besides, maybe they are not falling, they are experiencing! Experience sometimes is negative. But in the end you will learn sth from it.
Experiencing. Something you are afraid of. You are always running away, getting scared and all. Not facing. Saying it is not your business. In some parts it is indeed not your business, for example the personal lives. Guess why it is called personal?
What I want to say is that everyone has to make his/her own decisions. Everyone sees the world, sees a situation differently. What you might call falling, is something the other one doesn't see as falling. If you keep yourself from everything, complaining and critising so much about everything, you will be in the same or worse situation and this will be inevitable.
Believe me, stop being like that and start living YOUR OWN LIFE. Not the life you modify and manipulate according to what other people are doing and thinking.
And if you think that your "REAL" friends, who all have (almost) finished school and therefore are so mature, are perfect. Then you are wrong. They are not. And believe me, they will do mistakes worse than any you can ever imagine. It's not about finishing school. Stop being so [I don't know what to call it]. Just stop it.
You're such an idiot!
I'm talking about the fact that they have graduated from school, NOT that they are maturer just because the have finished school!
And by the way, just so that I get you right:
Your friends are NOT part of your personal life? That makes sense. So they are regarded as non-personal things in your life...
Ok, I won't interfer in your talk, because this is really not my business. I had to confront myself with the fact that in one of two cases one can't interfer in friends' stuff: either your friend(s) has a boyfriend and are facing some trouble with him or your friend(s) has friends you don't share. Believe me ya Nadia, in this case one has to step back, because, though you might regard the interference as your duty, your friends will let you hear things you're not willing to hear,such as "it's not of your business". Besides, God said that if you can't prevent something bad (at least from ur point of view) by using your words or by violience, you just have disapprove by your heart,meaning saving your advice inside you. I know this solution seems not so practical, but any other solution will cause nothing but misunderstandings and maybe fights.Hope I helped :)
Thanks a lot ya Nada!
I believe you're right!
Unfortunately one just has to live with it..
Was good to see the whole thing from someon's point of view who knows and understands what I am talking about!
Thanks again! =)
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